What do we mean by expectations? In our daily life it’s easy to become entangled in expectations about ourselves, our future and about others in our life. They can shape how we think, feel, and behave, often without us even noticing. For example, we might expect certain things of ourselves in social situations, or at work or have expectations for our children.

At our nature-based counselling practice here on the Sunshine Coast, we often invite people to pause and explore the expectations they’re holding — and consider what it might feel like to gently let some of them go.

What are we expecting?

Whether it’s how a conversation should unfold, how we “should” feel by now, or what our lives “should” look like, expectations are part of the human experience. Sometimes they serve us, helping us plan or feel a sense of control. But often, especially when unspoken or unrealistic, they can weigh us down and lead to feelings of anxiety.

Do you notice yourself wondering:

• What should be happening right now?
• What will happen tomorrow?
• What if things don’t go as planned?

These questions are natural — particularly if you’ve experienced trauma or uncertainty. They can be our mind’s way of trying to stay safe. In trauma-informed practice, we honour these protective parts while also gently asking: Is this expectation helping me at the moment?

How nature can help us release

When we spend time in natural settings — among the trees, beside the ocean, on country — something softens. Nature doesn’t expect us to be anyone other than who we are in that moment. A tree doesn’t rush us to grow. The tides don’t judge our emotions. There is no “right” way to be in the bush.

Green spaces offer us a mirror, reminding us that just like the natural world, we are always changing. When we notice the wind through the trees or the changing light, we are invited into the present. Here, we’re reminded that we can meet ourselves — and our lives — with gentleness and curiosity rather than expectation.

Strength in surrender

Letting go of expectations doesn’t mean giving up on hope or direction. In a strengths-based approach, we see letting go as a kind of wisdom — the courage to trust yourself, your journey, and your capacity to respond to whatever unfolds.

When we give ourselves permission to be with what is, rather than what should be, we often find space for healing, growth, and even joy. This space allows for choice, self-compassion, and new ways of being that feel more aligned and authentic.

An invitation

Next time you’re in nature — even if it’s just a few quiet minutes in your backyard or local park — take a moment to notice:
What expectations am I holding right now? Then gently ask: Is it safe to put them down, even for a while?

You might be surprised by what opens up when you do.

If these are questions you would like to explore on a walk and talk in nature, please send me a message. I offer a free 30-minute online discovery call, which can be booked via the bookings tab.